But I Cannot Win

But I Cannot Win

How devoted would Mother Theresa be to American Idol? Would Martin Luther King, Jr. prefer working on his golf game? If Mahatma Gandhi played video games would he keep it simple with Tetris or become a Guitar Hero champion? It is hard for me to even imagine these amazing leaders living a life of leisure, taking a night off, or just being “normal” people. They, in my mind, cannot be “normal” people because they are “leaders.” I mean, I look up to them as role models when I am not preoccupied with updating my “Pieces of Flair” on Facebook.

One Month Into Pre-Launch!

One Month Into Pre-Launch!

Just a reminder that I pre-launched my new book, Good Enough Now, on inauguration day, January 20th. and we are still looking for a lot more sales!

I know that many of you received all of this information back in January, but just in case you forgot.... I am sending all the great information to you again!

Please feel free to forward this blog, post, article to all of your friends.  Here are some really simple ways for you to do that!

Tools to Track Your Response Patterns!

Tools to Track Your Response Patterns!

I was asked for years if I had some kind of practice tool so that audience members could get in the habit of noticing power dynamics around them.  I typically responded in a snarky way until it was pointed out to me that not everyone has the access to friends, colleagues, conferences, and the like to be challenged.  From that day in 2002, I started keeping track of power dynamics in a small notebook.  I kept the notebook with as I watched the news, read through my email and Facebook feeds, travel around the country, and experienced life. 

Get a Room! And ... be Grateful!

Get a Room! And ... be Grateful!

Think about the last time — maybe over the last month — that you got angry at someone for behaving exactly the way you expected them to… doesn’t make any sense, does it? We have expectations of others and of ourselves and then we act surprised. This is all about patterns of behavior that we both acknowledge and desire to be different. Perhaps it is time that we do something different — let us start with realizing our part of these patterns.

Showing Up White

Showing Up White

I have served in a number of leadership roles at different camps, institutes, and retreats and have come face to face with a startling realization.  I came to realize that as a White person doing social justice work, even one with a firm understanding of the issues, I show up in an oppressive way as a result of my racial privilege. The further I looked at this issue, the more I found it to be true, even when surrounded by those who know me and my work and validate that I ‘get it’.  To some this might sound obvious, but I realized that my Whiteness can make a person of color challenge their correct thinking, to the point of feeling ignorant when I present an idea, blindly making a mistake!  This observation rocked me to the core and I decided to do something about it.  

Why Diversity Training Don't Work!

Why Diversity Training Don't Work!

As an experiment, I have watching the article for the past few months to see how much attention it would get.  In my opinion-not enough.  With 1,440 (many of which are me dipping back into the article to check on comments and such) I worry that Lipman’s important message is falling on deaf ears.

Safe Zones Press Release!

Safe Zones Press Release!

Safe Zones - Training Allies of LGBTQIA + Young Adults

I am pleased and happy to share the press release of my new book with you all!!

How safe and welcoming is your campus?

This is the first comprehensive resource for developing Safe Zone programs to support LGBTQIA+ youth and young adults. These programs publicly identify supportive allies by hanging the “Safe Zone” sign and are trained to become better allies by attending ongoing workshop sessions.